After getting all the testing done, I discovered that I do not have an immunity to Rubella. In order to go through a fertility cycle, I either needed to sign a vaccine waiver or get the MMR vaccine again. I opted to get the vaccination again and made an appointment with my primary care doctor.

After waiting 3 weeks for an appointment, the person I was scheduled with was very rude because of my fertility concerns. I explained why I was there and since I mentioned that we were trying to get pregnant, he wouldn’t give it to me. Despite me explaining the reasoning behind it and that we would be waiting to go through a cycle until the safety period has passed, a requirement with the fertility clinic, he kept coming up with new things he needed before giving it to me. I ended up having two separate faxes sent from the clinic to this man, among other releases and tests from him. I was there for over two hours before finally getting the vaccination I needed.

People without fertility concerns have no idea how much negative treatment people get when trying to get pregnant. If I would have gone in and just stated I wanted to get the MMR again for extra protection, he would have just given me a urine test and called it a day. However, since he knew I was working with a fertility clinic, he kept creating more and more reasons why he didn’t want to let me get it. One excuse was that I needed the flu shot and couldn’t get two vaccinations in the same day, so Id have to come back for the MMR. I refused the flu vaccine and stated that if that were his policy, I wanted the MMR. He argued with me throughout the  multiple hour process and kept accusing me of putting a future child in danger. I am glad it is done now, but I wanted to share some insight into the life of those with fertility problems and how experiences like this can all combine together to create emotional trauma. We get treated so poorly and have assumptions made about us, have people feel bad for us, make negative comments about what we are going through and worse. I hope one day this will all be worth it.